real talk
Most of us have been on both sides of this equation. You know, whatever the reasons, it's simply going to equal to a breakup. But when it comes to the real reasons why promises of togetherness come to an end, people seem split on what they want to hear on why they're being broken up with. What would you choose, when you know the relationship is done, on their 'reasons why'.
To hear the brutal truth that's likely to be very painful to you, or something your partner-no-longer 'tells' you as a conciliatory and easing rejection of you?
Through the relationships, years of changes in your life, you usually have a rough idea of a person you want to have a relationship with. It's funny how, often times, your friend will describe this idea of a person to you, and to find that they've never been with a person anything like that. And chances are, the next person you are in a relationship with, may not fit that idea either. So, for the sake of science, do tell:
Do you find the people you have had relationships with are similar or dissimilar to the idea of a person you want to be with?
I feel that we are attracted to people who have the traits you are looking for, otherwise the chemistry wouldnt have been there in the first place. Not saying that we couldn't be attracted to someone who doesnt fit the specific criteria, but they usually have to have somnething better going on that over-rides it (like a great sense of humor for example).
ReplyDeleteUmm... GUILTY!
ReplyDeleteSometimes, it's hard giving the full truth knowing it's going to hurt so much. I fully support giving the whole truth, but I know of at least one instance where I felt I couldn't. If you can handle it, lemme know and I'll give it to you- but this one person, I knew it would wreck him well beyond just the fact that we were ending. I'd love to be able to talk to him about everything someday, but I feel like I can't yet.
And, yes... I would want someone to tell me the brutal truth.